Emotional Tools

Lately, I've been finding lots of examples of people who manage to live full and vibrant lives regardless of circumstances.  Stories of people with serious illnessness or injuries who refuse to allow the challenges or disabilities to define them.  Randy Pausch of The Last Lecture fame is a prime example of someone who accepted his terminal condition with grace and humor and chose to live life to the fullest right up to the last moment. 

I have been thinking a lot about what emotional tools these people have in common.  So far I've recognized self-efficacy which basically means confidence in one's abilities. Resiliency is another one, which means the ability to adapt to change and face challenges. Optimism, the ability to look at the positive aspects of life regardless of circumstances, is another valuable tool.  I think without self-efficacy or resiliency it would be impossible to be optimistic.  Finally, each person I've read about demonstrates a high level of engagement in life.  They are involved and connected with family and friends, are passionate about something, and/or have meaning and purpose afforded by a wide variety things.

These are the same tools demonstrated by people who age well. With them people are able to remain vital and active regardless of challenges.  Without them people are vulnerable to the whims of time and circumstance.  So here we are back to the concept of choosing to age well; understanding that we cannot always determine what challenges come our way but we can choose how we respond to them. 

6 responses to “Emotional Tools”

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  2. Kelly Whitlock says:

    People spend so much time focusing on the right exercises to do and the right foods to eat, etc. and forget our most valuable asset is our mind; the ability to focus on the positive rather than the negative. Thanks for your insights.

  3. Its so nice to see this good information in your post, I was looking the same which you post on blog, thanks now I have the thing which I was looking for, regards.

  4. Montanakay says:

    Glad I could help! Good luck with your work. Kay

  5. Jeannie Sperry says:

    Thank you for putting into such eloquent language many of my recent thoughts and observations. I look forward to reading and supporting your efforts. I will apply what I glean to my work as Wellness Coordinator for a staff of 300+ Head Start Staff of all ages.
    Jean Sperry

  6. Kay Van Norman says:

    Thanks Jean, I wish you luck in your job as wellness coordinator. There are lots of articles on my website at http://www.kayvannorman.com Please feel free to use any of the information there. Kind Regards, Kay

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